Julia and George had the most magical backyard baby shower. The sun would occasionally peak through the overcast clouds as laughter, mini family reunions and donuts filled the space. I especially appreciated Julia and her love for a dramatic pose, which resulted in some of my favorite portraits of her. It was a joy to document this special day, and wish this beautiful couple many blessings as they embark into parenthood.
In March of 2015, I visited my paternal grandfather, Papá Franky, in my home town of Brownsville, Texas. It was a brief trip, but at the end I told him I would be back in three weeks to spend time with him, and interview him. I returned in three weeks, but instead of finding him outside shirtless, working with his tools, and cuddling his dogs, I was walking into the hospital room where the rest of my family was arriving.
Papá was a cancer survivor, beating it twice over his lifetime, He had gone to the hospital because he had fallen ill, but while he was admitted they ran tests discovering the cancer that he had once defeated had returned. It had started colonizing his stomach and spreading throughout his bones. The doctor gave him at most, a couple days, so we decided to take him home and keep him comfortable as long as possible.
The first few days, it was as if Papá was more alive than ever. He had all his children, and grandchildren crammed into the tiny house. It had been decades since we were all reunited like this. Papá was elated, and we all laughed, retold old stories and ate as a family. But by the end of that week, I watched death walk into the house, sit in the corner, and patiently wait for Papá.
The once strong, tall, beautiful man that used to intimidate me as a child, was deteriorating before us. The cancer made it impossible for him to eat or drink anything, because he would instantly start coughing up blood. His bones began to twist and protrude from his body, and he had become restless, refusing to fall asleep. He lost the ability to speak, and communicated in his own form of sign language that only my grandma could translate. I could see the panic in his eyes, and I felt uneasy. I would sit with him in the dark, putting my face in front of his, looking for him and asking him, "Papá me vez? Estoy aquí, me vez?" "Papá can you see me? I'm here, can you see me?" His eyes would dart left and right, seeing through me, staring at one of the corners of the bedroom.
Guiltily, after seeing his health deteriorate so quickly, I had almost begun to hope for time to speed up. But instead, it slowed, and stretched for several hours where we all took turns cradling him, caring for him, and reassuring him it was okay to leave us when he was ready. Death watched silently from the corner, and I resented myself for the time wasted away from Papá.
In his final conscious night, we all gathered around him as he tried to finally fall asleep. He would wake every few seconds and look around. I finally circled around to face him, and he awoke, looked at me, and smiled. He finally saw me, and I wept. This was the last time I would see him smile.
"Me quede bien dormido, y ví a la muerte. Me estaba molestando. Que van hacer?" "I was fast asleep, and I saw death. He kept bothering me. What will you do?"
Emotions were intensified, and each of us longed to touch and feel close to one another. I would turn and see my family embracing, weeping and hurting together. It was like the real world had stopped, and we were in our own tiny vortex. Nothing seemed real. No prior pain or heartache seemed tangible in those final days. I remember feeling constant exhaustion, and sobbing until my body forced me into unconsciousness.
I felt my mom shake me awake. She told me we had about five minutes left. All the guilt rushed back as I cursed myself for ever wishing time to speed up. Now I only had five minutes and I could feel myself in panic. All the mental preparation and rationalization vanished. I wasn't ready.
I stumbled through the threshold of my grandparent's bedroom and sat on the bed next to Papá´s feet. My family filled the room. I know there was prayer and worship happening around me, but I don't really remember it. I remember feeling everything, and at the same time I couldn't feel anything at all. I remember my face and hands starting to go numb and tingly. My vision blurred completely from all the tears, and it felt like my head was under water. I remember thinking I needed an anchor to keep me still. So I started counting the seconds between Papá´s breathes. One Mississippi, Two Mississippi, Three Mississippi... I would start over every time I saw his chest rise and fall. I counted to 60 seconds, before I realized his chest would never rise and fall again.
We heard Papá´s two dogs begin to howl outside of the bedroom window. Could they see Death leading Papá into the next life? When our hospice nurse confirmed he had crossed over, it was a wave of relief and denial. I remember I could feel my mouth moving, and heard myself whispering over and over and over, "my God, my God, my God."
I watched my family fall into one another. I heard the wailing escaping from their mouths. I felt the hands desperately grabbing onto me. Grabbing onto each other. I felt hot and cold. I couldn't stop shaking. I couldn't feel anything anymore.
That night I dreamt of him. I saw him, a younger version of him I had only seen in photographs. His strong body, dark glowing skin, black hair blowing in the wind and the sun spilling its golden light around him. I saw him smiling and sailing his ship into the eternal sea. He was home.
Death is fundamentally tied into our culture. We live our lives speaking of it constantly, and casually. So much so, that at the end of our lives it's like reuniting with an old friend. I wanted to share this experience to provide insight and context for why we celebrate Dia De Los Muertos. This is a sacred holiday for our people, one that tethers us through generations. We honor our ancestors by remembering them, and celebrating death as a transition into the next world. Something not feared, but embraced.
I documented those final days on my iPhone and uploaded to my personal IG as it was unfolding. I want to thank all the friends, family, and strangers who stumbled across my posts and shared their kind words, prayers and love for us. I carry it with me forever.
In eternal memory of Jose Luis "Franky" Sosa. I think of you every day, Capitán.
I had the absolute pleasure of photographing Laura + Forrest's beautiful wedding day. These two met at Brick, while both being casted as actors in a play a few years ago, and celebrated their marriage in the same location. I spent the day capturing moments after moments, holding back tears during one of the most personal and touching ceremonies, and feeling like part of their family by the end of the night. I wish you two so much happiness, you are made for one another.
I was so happy to be able to document some of my cousin's wedding day. Even though I wasn't the official photographer for the day, I couldn't help but shoot. Paty and Juan, I hope you have a lifetime of happiness and that God continues to bless you on this new path together. I love you both so much.
DJ & Entertainment : Four40Entertainment
Yvonne and Jason tied the knot on June 13, 2015 at the historic and beautiful Mission Espada in San Antonio, Texas. I had the pleasure of photographing their intimate wedding, and hope these captured memories last a lifetime. Felicidades!
Photography Assistant: Vincent Reyna
Bride's Dress: David's Bridal
Bridesmaid Dresses: David's Bridal
Groomsmen Clothing: Men's Warehouse
Florist: DeVinnies' Paradise Florist
Food: Bill Miller BBQ
Dessert: Centeno's Cakes & More
Tables/LInens: Aurora's Linens
Transportation: A First Class Limousine
Photo Booth: Image Cinema Photo Booths
It's been exactly a year since I photographed Zayra for her sweet sixteen portraits, and this session was just as chaotic and fun as always. Per usual, the glam squad that included my cousin Dayra, my Tia Mayra, and myself, came through with styling, hair and makeup for Zayra's big night. We were all filled with nostalgia and excitement. I can't believe that Zayra is about to be a senior at Samuel Clemens High School, and we've definitely already started planning next year's prom shoot.
I took a trip back to my hometown in Texas this past summer with a group of my cousins. We were all packed with Frozen themed party favors, and gifts heading towards one of my ( technically niece's) birthday party. It had been a few years since I'd seen her last, but family is family, and when she met me (again) both my camera and I were quickly embraced by her.
Aileen and I met a few years ago when both of our dads were stationed in Hawaii. Since then, our families have stayed in contact, and have gotten so close, that I consider them my own blood. For our shoot, we spent the day driving through San Antonio, hopping on and off at different locations and also explored some of the Missions. Aileen graduated this May from UTSA with her Master's Degree in ESL. I admire her greatly and am proud of the example she is setting for many Mexican-American women. Aileen is one of the most confident, self-driven women I know, and her contagious smile made my job very easy!
Traditionally, we celebrate a Quinceañera at the turning of 15, however my cousin Zayra, was an exception and waited to have her Sweet Sixteen instead this past May. Zayra is a rising junior, an incredibly talented softball player for Samuel Clemens High School in Schertz, Texas. So, it was obvious photographing her, that she was most comfortable and in her element on that softball field. My Tia and cousin worked from early hours in the morning to do hair, nails, makeup, help Zayra into her beautiful dress, and occasionally hold up some lights for me. Who needs assistants, when you have family?!